I was laying in the bath yesterday trying to figure out what I should do about updating you on our not-as-exciting-as-usual sexual adventures.
A couple weeks ago I had decided that Craigslist just wasn’t working for us. Even though we’ve tried other swinging sites in the past, we’ve found that Craigslist gives us more options in our realistic drive-to-fuck radius. Chances of meeting another couple while out on the town are very low because our date nights are pretty scarce (well, not compared to most parents of young children but ignore that). Craigslist just worked for us, despite all my complaints a few weeks ago.
So, it was only a few days after my post about how done I was with Craig, I was back to checking casual encounters and sending my husband links to respond to (if he wanted). I didn’t necessarily have to trust the individuals we corresponded with, but I suspended my disbelief before I was proven right or wrong. So here is a brief summary of what has happened since our last discussion of Craig’s suckiness:
M4MF: We will call him Dan. My husband replied to his ad and thought he seemed like a nice guy. He wanted to try something new and gave Dan my number so we could all talk. Dan started sending me messages right away and never sent my husband another message. On top of that, I was bored with him right away. After a few days I was willing to give him a hard time for not even trying to impress me. I ignored his messages for a few more days, but was impressed with his tenacity and varied methods of reaching my attention. I threw him a bone with a sexy response one day, but I’m still not impressed with his responses after that and the fact he has not once reached out to my husband since getting my number. Currently ignoring his messages.
MF4MF: We will call them Tom and Anna. My husband replied to their ad for another (not local) couple to meet at a nearby hotel room that coming weekend. After a few days of messaging with Anna, my husband offered my number to Tom so we could all get to know one another. His and my messaging was sparse, but he seemed pretty cool. Anna and I did not talk, but per Tom, she was very interested in some bi-couple play at our home that weekend. We planned the night a bit, with it ending by them returning to their room by the time the kids wake.
I’ll be honest that the bi play with her didn’t interest me that much, and Tom wasn’t acting all that interested in me. I wanted this to happen for D, he reminds me often how many men he’s let me be with and how few women I’ve let him be with (two, almost) and him and Anna seemed to have built some sexual tension.
But then Tom dropped the “truth” or something…the morning before we were to meet Tom messaged my husband that it was actually him acting as Anna when they sent sexy messages back and forth. He went on to say that she really does exist but he doesn’t let her in on the pre-meeting messages because “it get’s her hopes up and there are too many flakes on Craigslist.”
Fuck, how can you trust the guy now? Weird! First, I would be so upset if my husband acted as me without telling me. He said she knew about it, but even then, I am not going to let someone pretend to be me ever and the other women I want to spend time with would never let that happen either. Second, he is the flake, the liar, the Craigslist weirdo. But my husband D and Tom continued talking. Plans even changed, they no longer had a room for the night. It all made me question her existence in the first place. It ended easily when I asked my husband to request that they meet before coming to our house, and Tom called us “flakes” for changing up the plans. Done.
M4MF: Jared responded to an old ad my husband had placed for another couple. He was very articulate, and very obviously smart and gentlemanly. He may be in our future, but for some reason when it comes time for him to come over I don’t feel like it. So I’ve probably made us seem like the flakes. Maybe I’m flaking because I haven’t talked to Jared at all. I’m deciding I’m just no good at that sexy messaging thing but I do want to know the guy a little before I embark on a sexual journey with him.
At this point I feel no need to stop the casual peeking at CL Casual Encounters about once or twice a week, with hopes that a real good match for us might come up again. And we’ll keep our eyes open for other couples and swinging friends. Of course we always have each other when it comes to satiating a desire or need.
Sometimes it does feel like we have a sense of urgency or need to increase the frequency of our encounters, but I think when you decide to open your relationship you want to ride the momentum of that rush for fear that taking a break might break this magic spell. The energy just feels too good to stop the flow. We are only this young (and hot) once.